Dear Prudence, greet the brand new day.

17 Mar

Few words capture the mind’s attention quite like “I’m gay.” And for many, these words are the product of years of soul-searching that culminate with two, indisputably significant words.

Coming out. It’s a sure-fire conversation-starter and, depending on the situation, guaranteed to be an emotional heart-to-heart. This moment in a gay person’s life can be a hugely defining point, and with such weight and emphasis placed on those two transformative words, can also be a validation of one’s uniqueness and help usher in a new, more transparent (and hopefully a happier) stage in life.

No two coming out stories are the same. Some are planned, others are accidental. It may be the inevitable conversation you’ve been putting off for years, searching your brain for the right time and the right place, only to discover there is no right time and there is no right place. Coming out may be wrought with tears of joy or sadness, and a loving embrace can sometimes speak louder than any words ever will.

You may even inspire someone you’ll never know.

We’re told being brave doesn’t mean you’re not scared. Sometimes the bravest things we do are also the scariest. We spend so much time trying to control the uncontrollable, when the best solution may be letting go of the unknown and embracing your truth.

Your story is unique to you. It is who you are. Your path, your experiences, they’re all strokes of a brush that make up a beautifully complex painting. And that’s something worthy of being proud about.

You coming out is the single most powerful tool you have to change a heart and a mind. Imagine the world we could live in if we didn’t feel the need to conceal who we are. Imagine you finally getting the chance to be you.

We all have a voice. And, yeah. I’m gay.

I strongly encourage you all to read this article, too: I dreaded coming out to my parents

6 Responses to “Dear Prudence, greet the brand new day.”

  1. Buffalo March 17, 2011 at 9:56 pm #

    this was really awesome!! thank you.

    • combscp March 20, 2011 at 9:48 pm #

      Thank you Buffalo! 🙂

  2. aclavers March 18, 2011 at 1:08 am #

    You obviously put a lot of thought and effort into this blog. It definitely shows! It’s a good read. Glad you were somehow able to make use of that article I linked you to in the Globe, even if just accompanying at the end.

    • combscp March 20, 2011 at 9:50 pm #

      Thank you!! I only wish I could give that article the justice it deserves, it really is fantastic. Such a great message.

  3. Michael Hulshof-Schmidt March 18, 2011 at 10:34 am #

    What a beautiful post. You certainly do a magnificent job of underscoring the power of identifying. Yes, we each of us have our own coming out story. I only wish we could document them all for posterity.

    Well done!

    • combscp March 20, 2011 at 9:53 pm #

      Sometimes the things that seem the scariest can also be the most empowering! We all have a right to be proud of who we are. You’re right though, all the times a person has to come out can be very taxing. I wish there were an easier way. 😉 I still have names I’ve yet to cross off my list, but I’ll get there one day. 🙂

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